What is Parental Alienation?
Parental alienation occurs when one parent turns a child against the other parent and his or her family. Parental alienation is defined as the systematic denigration of one parent by the other in order to disrupt what would otherwise be a loving parent-child bond. This behavior can accompany high-conflict marriages, but it is most commonly associated with family separation or divorce involving legal action.
Parental alienation consists of one or more of a group of behaviors that are damaging to children’s mental and emotional well-being and often involves interference with the relationship between children and either or both of their parents. These behaviors can most often accompany separations and divorces, and divorce-like situations, such as children born out of wedlock, but also can be evidenced within high conflict marriages.
Whether verbal or nonverbal, the behavior leads to a child being mentally manipulated or bullied into believing that a loving parent is the source of all their problems, and/or that a loving parent is an enemy to be feared, hated, disrespected, and avoided.
Parental Alienation Awareness Through Education
With awareness of the problem comes education, and with education, comes the power to stop most of the abuse of young, impressionable, easily manipulated children, and to help repair many of the damaged family relationships. Our primary role is to spread that needed awareness, and we would like your help to get it done.
Upholding basic rights to their children and family has become an ever-increasing problem for American parents, as the result of aggressive and unlawful intrusions by some of those who sit in positions of authority. This is done in defiance of our sacred Constitution. This authority has been too often wielded with flagrantly self-serving, even immoral standards and has not produced what is truly best for the Country, let alone those residing in it. Once upon a time, all Americans inherently knew that children were governed by their Mother and Father together. Yet more and more, those titles have become obsolete and subjugated to our judicial branch of government.
Children are daily being denied their own flesh and blood, denied their own birthright futures, terribly neglected and kept from the good things in life. How? Simply as the result of a ‘stranger’ signing a piece of paper, instantly denouncing our founding Constitutional principles of life, liberty, and happiness, and mocking the time-honored and well-established law of our nation. Although it is as plain as the nose on our faces, parents continue to be alienated from their children on a nightmarish scale.
Alienated Child Statistics
According to Houston Divorce Counsel, thousands are alienated monthly. These innocent children are shredded and left to feel hopelessly abandoned, without explanation or understanding. Parental Alienation is a real and serious social problem. It should not be tolerated, accepted or ignored by anyone who truly cares about children and how they feel about themselves.
Parental Alienation Experts
No one wants to face the hateful child abuse that is Parental Alienation Syndrome. The Non-Custodial Parent is battered from pillar to post. The child is used by the custodial parent as a weapon of hate. This ‘child missile’ then hurts the non-custodial parent by rejecting them, even if that parent is a loving caring one. They then suffer terrible grief and loss. The alienating parent usually the custodial parent is relentless in their nasty vile hatred and the poor child has nowhere to go except to alienate the other parent and align with the custodial parent. PAS has then happened.
Enough is enough. The family courts and parental child abusers have to be accountable for involving their children. Psychologists and Courts often miss the fact this is happening or do not FULLY understand the implications or dynamics the child learns and then plays a part in the whole process and will carry this dynamic into the courts and lawyers offices etc. Equal Custody will help prevent Parental Alienation and the emotional abuse of children by one divorced parent.
Definition of Alienating Behavior
The alienating parent in all their narcissistic rage then says “it isn’t me, it’s what the child wants”. Every little thing the non-custodial does becomes a big crime and so it goes on and on devaluing and destroying a healthy loving relationship. This is also described as being an enmeshed parent.
Action is needed
Politicians do not understand this and will NOT face it, try them and find out. Go see your politician and see how far you get if you do then post it on your blog here, please leave your story we need them all here. Fight forever to protect children from being legally abused.
If you are experiencing the pain and torture of being alienated it may be useful to seek grief and loss counseling
Video on Hostile Parenting
What is Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)
Please read the articles page to gain a more in-depth knowledge of PAS. Parents need to think before they act. They need to look ahead to the consequences before they share secrets that no child should have to know – before they take the innocence of childhood from children who are totally powerless to fix their adult problems. They need to seek the counsel of professionals who can dispassionately help them make the right decision on their children’s behalf. Then they need to work on healing themselves. PAS is sometimes called “Malicious Mother Syndrome”, although fathers, as well as mothers, are capable of this behavior.
1778. Conscience is a judgment of reason whereby the human person recognizes the moral quality of a concrete act that he is going to perform, is in the process of performing, or has already completed. In all he says and does, man is obliged to follow faithfully what he knows to be just and right…
1782. Man has the right to act in conscience and in freedom so as personally to make moral decisions. “He must not be forced to act contrary to his conscience. Nor must he be prevented from acting according to his conscience….”
“any attempt by a parent to alienate a child from the other parent should be seen as a direct and wilful violation of the rights of that child. The punishment and legal ramifications should without doubt be as focused as any other instance of child abuse”.
Parental Alienation Symptoms
A parent denigrates the other parent to the child. This process of devaluing a parent to the child is damaging to that child’s self-esteem and confidence and causes problems that will live on into adulthood. This process is what is called PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME. There are many articles on this website explaining in detail what Parental Alienation is and the effects on the child.
A once loving and close relationship with a parent is suddenly and abruptly ended by the children with little warning. The child aligns with the alienating parent and rejects the targeted parent.
Hostile-Aggressive Parenting
If you have ever had someone try to break the bond between you and your child, you will understand the trauma this causes. The sheer grief and loss are intolerable. This can lead to depression and even suicide for the alienated parent. The parent who tries to break the bond between you and your child is abusing your child
If you physically injure a child or other person, you know you could be thrown in jail. If you sexually abuse a child, you know you could be thrown in jail. But, if you mentally abuse, brainwash, or alienate a child from their parent, it is not a crime. Is that right? Is this just? Is this good for a child? No, laws need to be made, to make parents responsible for ENCOURAGING a good relationship with the other parents, and legally PUNISH the parent who uses a child as a sick and sad tool to try to “get back” at the parent who left them.
Child Custody and Divorce
Child custody issues can be a huge, stress-filled mess, and negatively impact your own life, and the lives of your children, especially if one parent is exhibiting parental alienation tendencies. This happens whether the parents are divorced or unmarried.
- One parent uses the child to spy on the other
- One parent undermines the authority of the other parent
- One parent refuses to communicate in an effective manner
- One parent ignores the rules set by the court for visitation
- The child seems to have formed some type of “alliance” with one parent against the other
- One parent divulges “too much information” to the young child
- One parent stops the child from bringing favorite belongings to the other parent’s home
Child custody issues only raise one question – what is in the best interests of the child? Preference is usually given to both parents, unless one or both of the parents have demonstrated that they are unfit to parent. We are reminded by divorce attorneys that child custody issues can arise even if the parties are not legally separated, but living apart. This occurs often in Texas military families. There are several classifications of child custody in the state of Texas such as; Sole legal and physical custody, primarily physical and legal custody, joint physical and legal custody, and no right to custody.
Hostile Parenting & Children
Children are the pawn in the system’s game. The system being parents, the family courts, legal people, the child support agency, magistrates and the media. This system allows 6ft tall adults to hit a 2ft tall child in the name of love. So why are we surprised that the system allows abuse of children through PAS. I am of the belief all of the above need to totally re-think how to love and nurture children in a safe and trusting environment.
Signs of Severe Parental Alienation
An adult hits a defenseless child. How often are children hit, how long for, where on the body, is a weapon used, are bruises allowed, do some parents lose control when hitting children – the stats show some do – are parents aware of other ways to discipline a child than using physical force, if a child is hit lightly then why do it at all? There are other safer ways to discipline a child. Yes, this is an emotive subject. I personally believe children need protecting from violence not conditioned to it.
Abuse of children also happens when:
The family courts do not see through the lies and manipulations of the chronic narcissistic parental alienator. Some people who should know better such as court psychologists, magistrates, feminist groups and the media are often conned by the devious alienating parent. I will not mention legal people here as most of them are blind to children’s needs and are biased to where the $$$ are coming from.
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This was posted by a 14-year-old boy on this website
“good on ya for making this website, I have myself possibly been a part of parental alienation syndrome not the cause, but the victim, anyway great website and I hope there are more people who realize what parental alienation can do to the parents and especially the child.”